Developed from real couples therapist's experiences and backed by relationship science, this isn't another generic personality test – it's your personal blueprint for turning heated moments into healing ones.
Each question is designed to uncover the hidden dynamics that shape your relationships.
The Stonewaller
Sometimes The Stonewaller can be frosty and aloof, other times a little kitty. But their conflict behavior involves withdrawing and becoming emotionally distant during disagreements, leaving the other feeling unheard and invalidated.
The Volcano
With an explosive temper, The Bear unleashes a storm of anger, and can cause disagreements to escalate rapidly.
Sometimes they're cute and fluffy, but don't mistake them for a teddy bear.
The Deflector
Cunning like a fox, The Deflector is skillful at changing the subject and evading confrontation, avoiding direct engagement and accountability. Their ability to deflect and shift focus can hinder resolution, and helps them avoid responsibility.
The Fighter:
Known for being the one to initiate the charge, often seeking confrontation and pushing others' buttons. Their aggressive approach to conflict can lead to strained relationships Can be scary like the shark, confronting others
The Placator
A true diplomat, this pattern seeks to keep the peace and maintain harmony in relationships. They often navigate tension with grace, using their natural talents and effective communication and empathy to find resolution.
The Retaliator
With a tendency to retaliate and push back, this pattern involves responding to conflicts or criticisms with equal intensity, often resulting in escalated tensions and a cycle of retaliation.
The Criticizer
Swooping in with relentless criticism and personal attacks, tearing down others during arguments. Their words can be sharp and damaging - and sometimes they don't even know they're doing it.
The Analyst
Relies on logic and reason over emotions when addressing disagreements. They approach conflict with a logical mindset, seeking to understand the underlying issues and find practical solutions.
Category
A conflict-avoidant creature, who prefers burying its head in the sand when faced with disagreements. They often avoiding confrontation and difficult communications preferring to hide until it goes away.
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